Friday, December 11, 2009

No Surrender, No Retreat, No Regrets

Teammates, it is an honor to introduce you to Larry Broughton - he's a former Green Beret, a remarkable entrepreneur, and a man on a mission to help others defy the odds. I hope you find him as inspiring as I do, and I believe you'll find his message is more than fitting for CHARLIE MIKE - NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS! Thanks LB for being a guest blogger on CHARLIE MIKE. AMM

Among the most powerful lessons I took from serving on Special Forces A-Teams (the Green Berets) in the U.S. Army were the importance of possessing a tenacious spirit, and maintaining a positive attitude in the face of difficult and challenging circumstances. Perhaps we shouldn’t be surprised that those who have experienced extraordinary and enduring success in business, the arts, athletics, and virtually every other field have embraced these two powerful “disciplines.”

I was blessed last week by meeting Jack Canfield (Co-Author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, and author of The Success Principles). Among other pearls of wisdom that seemed to flow from him, was this: “Everything we want is outside our comfort zone.” Wow! The clarity of this idea was like a brick to the head for me. Whether we’re pursuing personal, spiritual, financial, or physical goals, if it weren’t uncomfortable (and even a little painful, at times) we’d very likely already possess it or have achieved it.

Every successful person has faced challenges, and experienced setbacks and failures on their journey towards success. It’s a natural part of growing. For those who learn to anticipate it, embrace it and take corrective action towards improvement, find extraordinary success as their sweet reward. Winston Churchill has some of the most poignant quotes on this topic, and described the process this way, “Success is the ability to move from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.”

An important key to success is how we respond to the challenges and setbacks we face, and the attitude we choose to adopt when we’re knocked down. Too often, after a setback, we find ourselves curled in the fetal position, licking our wounds, embracing a victim’s mentality. Has that approach ever launched anyone towards his or her goal? A good attitude won’t guarantee victory, but a bad one will guarantee defeat.

If you’ve neglected your workout routine, missed a deadline, or fallen short of your goals, beating yourself up or wallowing in pity is a waste of time and energy, and will serve no good purpose. Instead, consider executing an After Action Report (we conducted these after every mission in Special Forces) to (a) identify problem areas that need improvement; (b) develop measures to counteract these problem areas; and (c) pinpoint “lessons learned.” Winston Churchill said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts.” So, I encourage you to avoid the negative chatter in your mind, assess the situation, take corrective action, learn your lesson and drive on.

Here’s to your success!

Larry Broughton

Larry Broughton is Founder & CEO of Broughton Hospitality, and served 8 years on Special Forces A-Teams in the US Army. He is also an author, speaker, and executive coach, parlaying leadership lessons from the Green Berets to the business arena.


Suz Broughton said...

This is so true!
As a mom of two I try to let my kids fail big time in order to let them become the adults I want them to be--successful, happy, and contributors to their community.
Great post, Larry.

Unknown said...

Wow, there are so many good quotes in here, can't get enough of it!

I can personally relate to wanting to curl up in the fetal position after falling short of a goal. I took the LSAT (for law school admission) in June and was completely defeated when I received a score that was below my personal expectation. I wallowed in self-pity for a while, saying "but I tried so hard!" However, no one was going to help me get a higher score but myself. I snapped out of my funk and threw myself back into my studying. I saw my practice scores go up and up and up and finally I faced the real LSAT again last Saturday. I won't know my score until January, but I walked away from the test center feeling confident and proud, knowing that I put my all into it.
Thank you for reitterating these important lessons Larry!

Unknown said...

Great message to everyone. I learned and subscribed a long time ago to this: "If I want something I've never had, I need to be willing to do something I've never done." My greatest accomplishments in life, both personal and professional, have come to fruition with this principal.

Joe G. said...

Green Beret, Hero .. NO DOUBT.

BUT can he make the Team in the MTWTF Contest?

Big game tomorrow.

Jury's out.

Get ready.

Be strong.

Hunker down.

Pull - Push

Stoke the fire.

Anchors Aweigh!!!!!!

(for added inspiration READ JOHN FEINSTEIN'S BOOK).

Unknown said...

Good post especially in times like we are in. In reality sometimes we can feel like victims due to our circumstance, but in reality we never were victims. It's all perspective.

Unknown said...

Great stuff, Larry. Lots of food for thought.